I am 25 years old and I am a Starter Wife. My husband and I met in high school in our hometown. I had our daughter and we became young parents. We decided to get married and enlarge our family. This was the happiest time of my life!
On our daughter's 4th birthday he decided to let me know that he wanted a divorce because he had been unhappy for a long time. Before this actually happened I became pregnant as planned and started the process of buying our first home. His unhappiness was a huge shock to me, my family and even his family.
I had had suspicion of another woman but excused my accusation and insecurity with pregnancy hormones. I later found out that the same woman had moved in with my husband and into my bed with in only three days when I was asked to leave. I had to revert back to living with my parents, with no job, a pregnant belly, a 4-year-old and no husband. I was completely mortified! I was severely depressed and cried at least twice a day.
I survived, literally, by my daughter. It's amazing how even the smallest people can change your life. She would sit next to me in my bed combing my hair because I didn't want to get up. She would sing, kiss, hug, and tell jokes just to see me smile. She was the only one who was so very excited about her brother entering into this world. She would remind me that we were going to be OK and to stay happy!!! I realized I had leaned on my daughter for support when I should have supported her! You could easily say I needed her a whole lot more than she probably needed me!
I decided to quit feeling sorry for myself and that my husband was not coming back. I focused on the happiness of my daughter and the wellness of my unborn son. I am now a HAPPY single mother or two, a working career woman, and determined soon to be home owner. I am still healing but I know I can make a better life for myself and my children.
-- Amanda R.